A lot of my clients come to me to discuss their obstacles, which tend to be what they describe as failures.
And these are the best coaching shifts you can imagine coming your way from clients. Why? Because they are so simple, and yet so transformable to clients when it really hits them. So here's the reaction I try to hold back.
Obviously, it has to do with mindset. But its even more than that. It has to do with the disconnect between our visions of ourselves and the reality of ourselves. Which is all in our minds, but also in our plans, our to-do lists and our stress.
So what's a client to do?
First - Define your expectations.
Second - Define your reality.
And then adjust accordingly.
Sometimes, your (unreasonable) expectations come from family, friends or media. Or even a version of yourself you made up years ago, way before it was going to be possible to know what life would be like now. Make sure you really understand why you want what you want. Why your expectations are set where they are. And ask if it's necessary. Ask if that's the only way to get to where you want to be.
Expectations and our reality ALWAYS adjust. They get closer together, further apart, and change direction completely. And just as you get comfortable with your new expectations, life can quickly change reality.
It's a process.
Ultimately, it has less to do with a one-time fix, and so much more about relearning how to adjust constantly. Some days, it's completely possible to get up early, work out, make a healthy breakfast and pack a healthy lunch, get the family up and out the door and have a great day at work, all before coming home and having a fun-packed evening. And some days it is not. Your life might look different from mine, but we each have these same days. Some great, some not so much. So it comes down to your ability to adjust accordingly.