It's so appealing, isn't it? That version of you, that you will never ever be. That version of yourself you think should be in the mirror looking back. The one that could have been...if only...
We all fall victim to this idea and dream. Why? Well because we are lucky enough to actually have 1st world problems. You know, that millennial term for knowing we shouldn't whine but we do anyways? First off, just to remind anyone bashing on millennials, I am one, so just stop. Secondly, just because they are 1st world problems, doesn't mean they aren't problems! Just because your basic needs are met, doesn't mean you aren't struggling in that next level. Whatever that level is for you! And don't judge others. Rich, poor, in college, single, parenting, whatever, we all struggle. It's in our human nature to keep pushing for the next level and to puzzle it out. SO IT'S NORMAL!
So what if I told you that we could completely change you without changing a thing?
Let me repeat that...What if you could change without changing a thing?
You'd call me crazy. Or flat out scoff at me, like one client did.
But really. What if there was nothing wrong with you? What if you are the one that got you this far, even if this far is what you consider a complete disaster? Before you go out and buy all the books, all the programs, or even all the coaching, let me let you in on a little secret:
YOU ALREADY HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED.
Just like a closet that is being Marie Kondo'ed (it's a verb now, right?), you've got everything you could ever need and usually the problem is that you've got too much stuff!
Of course you can't see room for your biggest priorities in your schedule, when you're running around doing three days worth of stuff in a day.
Of course you think you're a mess when you NEVER schedule cleaning time!
Of course life is hard, you are ALIVE!
Look, life is hard. Keep saying that. Life is hard. It's this expectation that it should be easier that messes us all up.
What can make it a bit less hard? YOU! Only you can do it. You take apart your life and Marie Kondo it! Keep what works (or sparks joy) and get rid of what doesn't. And not like in the memes about throwing away bills, but really, if something doesn't work for you, what are your options? Check them out, and make a decision. You might not be able to throw away laundry piles, but can you pay someone else to help? Can you buy the cutest hampers ever and be OK with a clean hamper in each room that never really get folded and put away?
At the very least, stop ignoring the problem(s) in your life, and DEAL WITH THEM! Not only will it knock that problem off your list, but hey now you can focus on the stuff that is actually priority for you, and go shopping because look at all that space!